You just came out of a room. It was lit—dimly, but lit. You shut the door behind your back and find yourself staring into a seemingly endless, pitch-black hallway.
Of course, it’s likely that there is another room down this hallway. Several rooms, actually. In time, you’ll catch glimpses of light spilling out from their doors, inviting you to enter.
There is light ahead. There has to be.
But it doesn’t feel hopeful. It doesn’t feel exciting.
It doesn’t even seem believable.
Because all you have in front of you. right now. is darkness.
And the only discernible light is coming from behind you. From that door.
The one you just shut.
Of course you can’t help but look back at that sliver of light. Dim as it is.
This is how it feels trying to move on after a breakup.
a breakup isn’t an event; it’s a process.
The conversation can be an event—if you’re both disciplined enough to keep it at that.
But the distance between committing to end a relationship and actually finding peace with it… that, my friends, looks like a blind marathon down a hallway of full of nothing but darkness.
then, you start to see
Maybe the next door you find isn’t your Soul Mate. But maybe being in his room—with different colored lights—teaches you some new things and lights your next steps. Maybe the wide-open gates of your family and friends lines your entire hallway with a blanket of warm sunlight. Maybe you find a mirror that reflects your own light, and you realize it’s actually kind of beautiful.
Wherever it comes from, it starts to lift the darkness.
Each step forward becomes lighter, easier.
something inside jerks you back.
You turn around
and almost have to squint.
Because now, from here,
the light from behind you has become a faded flicker.
what’s real, to us
In the world. In life. As much as we try to believe there is…
There is no set reality.
If you bump into a stranger on the street, quickly apologize, then go on your separate ways, then completely forget about that incident—then that stranger does not exist. In your reality, at least.
(This is the whole basis of Coco—but applied to the living, too.)
Things, people, memories. They are only alive if we keep them alive.
Moving forward, opening doors, discovering new light—all of this feels amazing.
Me, as I existed to you.
You, as you existed to me.
I can feel them dying.
and i don’t want (you) to die
Every moment. Every other moment. Every 10 moments.
All the sweetest, most perfect mornings. The silly inside jokes. The electricity when we locked eyes. An embrace that felt like home. Even all the fighting and crying.
The emotions that once consumed me… They all feel a bit strange now, like it happened to a different me. In a different lifetime.
But I’m not ready to let go; I’m frantic. Grasping.
Please come back, please stay. I look through our old pictures. Re-read all of our conversations.
It was here. It was real. We were... I’m running back to see if your light is still there.
I know, baby, that this is not how life works. You’ve taught me that.
I’m only ever supposed look forward. Let the natural momentum of time carry me through the darkness. I should try to get to a place where I don’t feel the need to look back anymore.
But for now. Just for a little longer.
I want to stay here. With that faint light. With the memory of you.
For as long as I can keep us alive.